30: How to Develop Inner Trust

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Hello mystical sisterhood listeners. This is

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your host, Maureen Spielman. And I'll keep this brief. But I'm

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coming to you today with a solo episode. And I'm talking about

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developing inner trust. It's going to have just principles

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and ideas, questions for you to take away and apply to your own

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life and takeaways of How to Become more aware and develop

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inner trust within you. And also thank you for being a listener

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today is episode 30. And Mark six months of the show. I'm so

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excited. You're here as always, and I'll see you in the episode.

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Hey there, welcome to mystical sisterhood. This is your host,

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Maureen Spielman. I started the show to highlight the

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knowledge to your own life. I believe that we're all in this

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in the episode.

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Hi, welcome back to mystical sisterhood. This is Maureen

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Spielman, your host and I'm solo today. I'm excited, because I'm

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celebrating six months of the podcast. It started in January,

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and today I am on episode 30. I wouldn't be here without you,

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the listener first and foremost, and all of my guests, I probably

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have interviewed around 25 guests. So far. I've been

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excited about each and every interview. And I'm really

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excited about what's to come. I decided today for the solo

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episode, to talk about developing inner trust, or

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honing it. If you've been on this path for a while, wherever

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you are on your journey. Mystical sisterhood, and

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bringing this to life has really been a journey of trusting

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myself stepping into myself. And I really feel that it's an

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expression at the soul level for me. And also in addition to the

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world that was much needed. So I was looking for some inspiration

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of where to start today. And probably like you, I have many,

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many, many personal growth and spiritual books on my bookshelf.

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In fact, it's a running joke that I can't stop buying them.

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And people I know, close friends family, they can't either. So I

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know I'm not alone in this. But a beautiful book came across my

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path, probably over a year ago. And it may be one that you

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haven't heard of. It's called Be still my heart. And it's by

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Shaku Selvakumar and she is a dear sister in law have a friend

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of mine, Xena, and sorry Selvakumar. So I was looking for

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inspiration in this book of poetry, again called Be still my

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heart. And I found a poem called the House of belonging, which I

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thought was really applicable and apropos for today, the house

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of belonging, she walked into the house of belonging,

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oblivious of any wrongdoing, stepping into cluttered rooms,

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hearing echoes from childhood wounds, memories from teenage

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years, brave planets orbited without fear, so comfortable.

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She was not shedding her skin, hugging a tightly she sat within

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foreign seeking, you surely will find not always what you had in

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mind. She searched today, in the house of love. The furniture was

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swept away. She sat in the dark in the house of faith, with

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nothing at hand, but the hope of grace. She picked up bricks in

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the house of trust for a strong foundation instead of fear. She

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made friends in the house of gray, every strand had something

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to say. Or the journey inside, crosses terrain unknown, a

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forked path, a blossoming tree, she waits to see, she stays to

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see. So you can see at the end of this poem, it has touched my

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heart. I love this house of belonging. And I believe that

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that house of belonging exists within you within all of us. And

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so today I wanted to do Talk about delving into a deeper

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relationship to that inner home. So you may continue to develop

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your inner trust, finding your own North Star, as they say,

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being your own go to person for answering so many of life's

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questions. And if you're like me, persistent questions come

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again and again. And new ones keep coming all the time. So

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we're human, and we can expect that. I always, it's because I

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didn't know anything different. I used to think that that

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Northstar, or that compass was outside of me, I'd find that

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teacher or book that would be my guide, in my reference point.

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And to some degree, I still do, or that that a loved one could

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be the answer to my happiness. And, in fact, all of my

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teachers, whether in the form of a true, you know, quote,

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unquote, teacher, or my teachers within my family, or my friend

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group, they are my guides, they are the ones that bring me back

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to my answers. But I am at the center of the show, I love how,

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you know, they often say that when we have recurring patterns

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in our lives that frustrate us, or we seem like we can't get

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away from or out of that we are always at the center of it. So

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that to me, says that we have these answers within. They lead

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my teachers and messengers lead me back to this inner home. For

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most of my life, I didn't understand that the people on

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the outside and the words in the books, we're not going to hold

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those complete answers. So again, they contributed to me

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finding it, but they weren't it. So I love the Choate, the

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coaching path that I've chosen to do it I call it soul care

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coaching, and of course, trained by Suzy Lulu spaced in spiritual

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psychology. And the premise is, and this applies to all of us is

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that you are whole and worthy as is, you have the answers within,

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and that there is nothing to be fixed. As I sort of wrote this

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out, as I was preparing, I thought, How beautiful is that?

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Does it get more beautiful? Can you imagine being a little child

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and being told these things, I'm laughing because I thought to

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myself, that though I loved my parents dearly, I wished for a

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do over, that do over of what it must have felt like to hear

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those words when I was young. So I see coaching as a journey of

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guiding you back to your truth, and developing an inner trust

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that becomes very reliable over time. I believe that if we would

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have been tended to in those ways, we would have developed

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this really, I don't know, just intimate relationship with

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ourselves. So that's what I'm interested in. Now, I really do

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find that so many of these terms and concepts come at midlife.

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And if it's true for me, I have to believe it's true for a lot

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of us that it's a new language, new practices, new ways of being

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that can lead us back to a really deep, intimate

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relationship with ourselves, and a deep and intimate trust with

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ourselves. Developing an inner relationship is one of the most

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sacred things we can do in our lifetime. Getting to know

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yourself so deeply that you can rely on yourself to give

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compassion to yourself in difficult times, lean on

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yourself to take pause and know that you will steer yourself in

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the right direction. And to become really adept at

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recognizing the signs coming to you, the universe around you,

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the intelligence of your body and your emotions. So

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essentially, you become your go to person, as experiences come

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your way. If you're in a pattern of reaching out to another, when

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you're when you're going through something, you will find that

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investing in a relationship to yourself will not take away that

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need completely because we are we are wired for connection and

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to be with one another. But it will reduce in a sense that sort

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of need or craving for an outer validation because what you do

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is you begin to enter validate yourself. And developing inner

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trust can feel like work. It's delving into new

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ways and I believe taking personal responsibility for how

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we're showing up for ourselves. So, although not clear at times,

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I tend to look at getting to my truth, my answers as a discovery

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process. And when I'm in that place, to come to myself with

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curiosity, and a willingness just to look inside. So why

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might your relationship to trusting yourself deeply, feel a

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bit rocky or unsteady? Or even? Like, what is Maureen talking

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about? And I believe it's because we were steered away, we

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came into the world with that inner compass, that inner

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knowing I like to think of it as an inner calibration. And just

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because we are human, and we came up in whatever culture you

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came up in, our parents greatly influenced us. And we often went

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to what they wanted us to do our teachers, we know in school

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systems, we behave in certain ways. And we lose that in

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touchiness with ourselves, maybe someone in our life told us we

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were wrong, or that wasn't accurate, or there was a better

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way, and you began to believe it. So the news media,

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magazines, teachers, specialists, you name it, I

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invite you to look back at your life, you have been surrounded

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by other people's voices, opinions and ways of doing

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things. And again, places I entrust it to others, and

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allowed them to impact how I felt about myself or what

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decisions I made. And when I kind of pondered, where have I,

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perhaps given away my trust? True, you know, when I was

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younger, blindly, but I guess, I'm inviting us to be on a path

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of discerning what is our truth? And can we trust it? So places I

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know that I gave away my inner trust, were allowing someone to

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determine what smart was for me. And then not trusting myself

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that I actually had this intelligence inside, I had no

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idea for most of my life. Allowing something on the

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outside to determine how I needed to look or show up. What

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size I needed to be any of those things, those messages came

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through loud and clear. Gosh, if you're my generation, in

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magazines, and television, and so this kind of trust coming

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back to myself of what is in alignment with how I want to

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feel, I think allowing others to take the two know the best

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course of action for my children. That's where I love

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the tie in of conscious parenting. And I think conscious

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parenting is a really beautiful Avenue, and portal to find out

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our truths. So consider that. If you've never considered

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conscious parenting, I do find that most people who come to me

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for conscious parenting, are working on relationship to self.

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It because we know that then that spills over into not only

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our self trust, but the Trust for our children as well. And I

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guess in general, just allowing someone to determine my self

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worth. So it's not that people in our lives are not

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trustworthy. But we are being invited to remember that what we

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know feel and how our experiences have guided us and

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are guiding us and that tuning into what you feel is not to be

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taken lightly at all. It should be the biggest part of decision

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making in your life if you ask me. So going to yourself first,

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before anything else. I wanted to say, how do you do this? How

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do I do this? How have I learned to do this? And it's based on

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the premise that in order to trust yourself, you need to feel

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safe. So we know that this is true on the outside and the

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outside. If we're in relationship with someone in

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order to trust them, and have an abundant relationship, we need

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to feel safe. And if someone on the outside is not treating you

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well for any reason, you're not going to feel safe, you won't

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trust them. This is an invitation then to take a look

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inside that goes for inner work as well. What can undermine your

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own feeling of safety and trust on the inside? So I think that

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we all have an awareness how we can be hard on ourselves. But if

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we begin to dial up our awareness a bit, it's going to

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lead us to answers. So sometimes it is paying attention to how

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people on our outside are hard on themselves. But being

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judgmental of yourself. And this is sometimes that quiet internal

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voice, or not saying things out loud, but being judgmental of

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yourself in your mind, saying, You shouldn't have done that.

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Either recently, or in the past a long time ago, we can create a

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lot of judgments about how we have shown up and the things we

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have or haven't done. Shaming yourself creates an unsafe

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environment inside, you're not a good person, or something's

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wrong with you, or there's something to be fixed or you're

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defective, because of something you've done recently, or a long

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time ago, again, I keep on saying like, being judgmental of

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yourself, and being shameful inside. I keep on saying a long

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time ago, because we can carry events from our past, and how we

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acted and showed up in our psyche for a long time. We know

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that they exist within ourselves, because we

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experienced them. Or we may or may not know that, but they do.

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But I know that I've had many act of loops on things that have

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happened in the past. For me, it can be different for all of us,

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particularly it was my teenage years. Because that was when I

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was most out of alignment, I feel. I feel it through my life,

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but most where it felt very volatile. And I think confusing

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was my teenage years. So I my mind would go back and revisit

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that all the time trying to figure it out. And this today, I

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wasn't going to I do have some things to say about it in a bit.

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But today was just really this premise of like, what does it

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take to develop inner trust? So we're taking a look, we're

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dialing up the awareness of where we're judgmental, and

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where shame sneaks in. Often we're tipped off because we use

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disparaging language. And that might even be, you know, your

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body's not good enough, you're not smart enough. Why did you do

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that? You're a bad parent, I don't know how it shows up in

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your mind, we all have our voices. So that really creates

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an unsafe internal environment, you can imagine if it were on

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the outside, it would feel unsafe, and you're not going to

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trust. So becoming aware of how you speak to yourself. It's

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going to allow you to then make other choices, and trying to

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think of what I'm saying their awareness is the beginning. If

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you've been doing this work, the reminders are always good, don't

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you think I remind myself every day. So building an inner trust

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is a process and one that unfolds at the pace that is

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right for you. At each moment, I'm reminding you that you're

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supported in this universe, and you're being guided on the

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outside and the inside. I'm hoping that today's podcast is

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giving you some guidance from an external voice. And I want to

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say something about the community at the end. But

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surrounding ourselves. With conversations like this are what

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leads us to developing the inner trust the inner safety, the

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inner intimacy. I've benefited greatly from both being in

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conversation with family who are interested in this conversation

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with my coaching colleagues and friends and community through

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social care coaching and different communities I've been

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in. So I believe that immersing ourselves in these ideas is one

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of the biggest things we can do. And that's really why I created

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the mystical sisterhood membership. And that's always on

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my website. I'll refer to it at the end. But that's I think what

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I found for myself is the immersion in community has

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allowed me to experience more internal freedom. And so I want

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to bring that to the world. I want to ask you a question.

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Okay, what has spoken to you so far? And what do you need from

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yourself consistently.

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Ask these kind of slowly. Where have you neglected yourself?

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Possibly trusting someone else on the outside more than

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yourself? What ways have you been hard on yourself? For what

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has happened in the past? what ways are you hard on yourself?

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For what you haven't figured out in the present? That's a big

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one. We're often really hard on ourselves for what we haven't

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figured out yet. Especially as a woman at midlife, we've lived

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many years, and we've lived many experiences. And we can still be

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trying to mentally in our ego, be figuring out things. And I'm

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telling you, this process of bringing you into your heart for

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developing the inner trust is a key to get us away from the ego

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mind and into our heart space. I know that if you're listening

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today, you are on a journey of moving from an outer world folk

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focus to an inner world focus, you would not be here if you

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weren't. And that's what I always love to I want to hear

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about your journey. I think it's fascinating. So when the outer

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world beckons, when you want to know the answer, know that

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creating space in your day, let's call it space, let's not

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call it time, because many of us have a scarcity relationship

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with time, and I get that completely. So let's create

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space in your day. It's one of the most precious things you can

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do to foster inner growth. And if we call it space, it has a

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bigger energy to it right? Time does too. But we've been so

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cultured by time, we haven't been as and cultured by space

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being scarce. Maybe if you've got little kids, and they're all

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around you absolutely. Or you have a crowded home, or you're

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taking care of and taking care of an elderly parent, those can

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also create constraints on spaciousness, but let's think of

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creating space in your days. And it may seem like what does this

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space look like it can be physical space, it can be a

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spiritual space for you. And it can be this emotional space. I

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think it's sometimes can sound cliche, when somebody says, Oh,

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you just need to journal more, or you just need to meditate

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more. But to me, it doesn't matter what is being called in

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or what's being offered to you. Doesn't matter the form. But

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it's that you take intentional time for yourself, by a time a

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spacious time, on a daily basis, if possible. For me, and a dear

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friend said this the other day that it doesn't look the same

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for her everyday either someone that I love and respect so much.

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But for me, it doesn't look the same. But I do believe some of

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the following practices allow us to get to this. I don't know

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like designated intentional space. And also holding this

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intention of I intend to create, to develop to foster to nurture

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to nourish my own inner knowing and trust. So daily practices

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lie, lighting candles, sitting with a journal, asking your

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guides what they're here to tell you are asking what I need to

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know, meditating, there are so many different meditations. They

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can be from insight time, or from calm they can be from also

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listening to anything inspirational. Because I find

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that when I listen to inspirational or I read books

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that are inspirational, they get me into my vibration, which

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allows me to connect with my true self. I also take a look at

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throughout my day, when I can, I'm no saint, believe me. But

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when I find myself using language that is focused on

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disconnected or disconnecting, versus connecting with myself, I

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witnessed myself and choose to replace these thoughts and words

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with compassion and understanding. It can be any

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number of phrases. So things like and these just soften.

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These allow us to soften into ourselves. When we have an

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experience that doesn't feel good coming to ourselves. It's

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so understandable that you experienced that that way, or

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that you feel this way. I see you. So this is inner dialogue.

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I see you for what you were experiencing. I want to connect

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with you. And just any sort of bridges inward of connection. We

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don't want the words that that disconnect that. And so when we

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say like I'm interested in my own experience. I'm curious

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about it. I want to know. Again, it harks back to this isn't an

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inner child podcast today. But it harks back to oh, what I

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wished I would have heard as a kid. But I can also give that to

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myself, I can give that to my loved ones, I can give it to my

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adult children. So I want to do another podcast on inner child

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because it's so fascinating. But the inner child involves going

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back to yourself, if you don't know what I'm talking about, to

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a younger version, and giving the law of care attending to and

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re parenting that is being called for. So in short, in

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developing this inner trust, you will begin to depend on yourself

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for when you develop this safety, intimacy, you'll be

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giving yourself more permission to do things in your life, to

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show up for what is true for you in the way that feels true for

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you. So, permission comes from you, first and foremost in your

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adult life, not from others. I think the process of intending

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to develop inner Trust and Safety and intimacy allows us to

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really slow down our life and begin taking pause more. And we

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can rely on ourselves for amazing guidance, and the

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cornerstone of it all for unwavering self compassion. And

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if you can't find that, from yourself, turn to those you know

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who can give it to you. You don't need someone giving you

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the answers. I mean, that's not to say that it's not well

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meaning, but it's within you. This whole podcast is just about

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it's within you. Bring in your trusted sources. It's that that

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dance between the two, I believe transformation for you, is going

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to happen before your eyes. I know that for so many of you it

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already is. You will find yourself saying I used to choose

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this way of doing or being. And now I choose this way. I'm

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mystified by the changes in myself and those around me with

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commitment, care and compassion, inner growth will flourish and

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take on a quality of abundance and again spaciousness. It is

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your time to experience this relationship where you can feel

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safe within where you wholeheartedly trust yourself,

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and just enjoy a beautiful inner experience. I'm personally on a

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journey of leaning into my truths, what my soul needs to

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learn. It's your birthright. It's my birthright. It's our

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birthright. So will you either begin, or continue to commit to

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your own personal growth. carving out time for yourself is

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a daily practice. We didn't talk about it in these ways. But

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practice present moment awareness. You become calibrated

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to your energetic vibration, and begin to know what you feel like

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inside. Get to know when things don't feel right. And when

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things are not yours. Practice coming back to the time that you

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set aside for yourself for spaciousness, and choose what

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speaks to you. Are you ready to develop an inner space and

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consciousness of safety and non judgement and continue to lean

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on trusted people? And what they reflect back to you. Take your

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time with the outer advice and input and know that these

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answers lie within you. You are on a quest alongside me to know

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and to really be your true authentic self. And I'm so

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honored again to be traveling alongside you.

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You know that I'm passionate about what I do. I'm passionate

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about every topic that's been brought into this podcast. I do

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struggle a little bit when I choose what to talk about in my

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solo episodes. And I think I probably needed this one today

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to to keep on leaning in. But I wanted to say because soul care

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coaching and my mystical sisterhood, podcast and

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membership are so near and dear to my heart and I know that they

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are here for you if you if you want to lean on them at all.

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There are three ways to get involved in the work and work

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with me, you can schedule just a one off 60 minute session for

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you to get an experience of what this work feels like. In this

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brief session, you can learn about intention setting,

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setting, share what is most relevant in your life, discover

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what is calling to be tended to uncover limiting beliefs

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operating below the surface, and walk away with a few tangible

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action items or new things to ponder in your life. I mostly

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love to work in the second way, which is a 12 week coaching

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container in which we do a deep dive into this work, whether

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it's how do I even come to myself? What is coming up for me

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through my emotions? What am I here to learn? What's most

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important? How am I showing up but mainly, how am I showing up

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for myself. So you begin to learn the principles of soul

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care into your life. Learn how to meet yourself with compassion

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more regularly, and grow a practice of developing a deep

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and authentic and connected relationship with yourself. And

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another one of my favorite offerings is the mystical

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sisterhood community, or membership. And this is for

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either those doing coaching and wanting to experience community.

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Or it could be that you're not ready for coaching and want to

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experience community. And then these principles, I have members

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of the group who say like I just want to immerse myself in this

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language and start to learn not only this, these personal

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growth, ideas and new conversation and new language,

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but also these principles of the universe. And I that's the part

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of the mystical that we sometimes pull into the podcast

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is like, how is the universe holding us? How are these things

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for me, and it's all woven together. But in the membership,

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it's a lot of fun, because we're doing live calls every week,

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there's a community feed with inspiration. There's inspiration

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from me as your guide, but also from your fellow members who are

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on the path of seeking. So that's a little bit about the

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membership. And I do believe that healing happens in

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community. Being in community of seekers on a path, just

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reminding us of practices and principles is invaluable. So a

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Or you can go to mystical sisterhood.com I hope today's

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podcast lead you to considering your inner landscape a bit more

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your inner trust and just be with yourself in this really

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heart centric, curious, gentle, intimate way. Thank you for

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listening today. And I'll see you on the next interview and I

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hope to see you in the membership or if you feel like

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I'll see you in the next episode.