50: How To Create An Aligned And Abundant Life By Changing Your Thoughts With Steffani LeFevour
Steffani LeFevour joins us today on Episode 50! Steffani is a Happiness and Mindset Coach with over 20 years of experience working one-on-one with clients and leading groups and speaking on stages the world over! Steffani is here to share her expertise of the importance of our thoughts. Quantum physics and science has shown that everything is energy and that the Universe responds to our energy and our thoughts. She shares tools to foster your awareness of what types of thoughts you are having and empowers you to believe that you can change your mind to live a fully aligned life, overcoming whatever obstacles you feel are in your way!
EPISODE TAKEAWAYS (what you’ll learn):
- The power of our thoughts and their key in creating our reality
- What we can do to overcome our limiting beliefs
- How complaining stands in the way of getting what you want
- Rewiring the brain for positivity
- What are soul contracts and how to they apply to our life
About The Guest:
Steffani LeFevour is the world’s top Happiness Coach, best selling author, international speaker, master at manifesting, fascinated with LOA and all things spirituality, reader of books (about high performance, personal growth and productivity...no novels, just not my jam) student of quantum physics, amateur bio hacker/athlete/wellness guru. Oh, she’s also a wife and mother to two crazy kids.
Steffani is here on this planet to help women find more daily happiness. To help them custom design and create a soul happy life that they’re crazy about. When we get happy, healthy and own our soul experience, anything truly is possible. Steffani believes that owning our soul assignments and surrounding ourselves with the right supportive women helps us find the most joy along this human journey. And that anything truly is possible!
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About the Host:
Maureen Spielman is the Founder of Mystical Sisterhood, a podcast dedicated to bringing more joy, healing and expansion to the world. She is a seasoned life coach who supports individuals through one-on-one coaching, groups and workshops.
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Transcript
Do you believe that your thoughts contribute to
Maureen Spielman:the reality you are experiencing? Do you feel that
Maureen Spielman:your thoughts are separate and what you think doesn't affect
Maureen Spielman:your reality? Well, today's episode and it's a celebration
Maureen Spielman:because it's episode 50 is with Stephanie LeFevre. Stephanie has
Maureen Spielman:been a mindset and happiness coach. For over really 20 years,
Maureen Spielman:she's practicing the art of how we can cultivate thoughts that
Maureen Spielman:are correlated with the reality we are interested in creating.
Maureen Spielman:Our thoughts are way more powerful than we've ever been
Maureen Spielman:led to believe. So today, we're going to be talking about the
Maureen Spielman:power of your thoughts, their key and creating your reality,
Maureen Spielman:what we can do to overcome our limiting beliefs, how
Maureen Spielman:complaining stands in the way of getting what you want, and
Maureen Spielman:rewiring our brains for positivity, and a little bit
Maureen Spielman:about our soul contracts, and how they apply to our lives. So
Maureen Spielman:I'm so excited to welcome you into Episode 50. And if you want
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Maureen Spielman:in the episode. Hello, and welcome back to mystical
Maureen Spielman:sisterhood. This is your host, Maureen Spielman. And today, it
Maureen Spielman:is my distinct pleasure to be sitting with Stephanie LeFevre,
Maureen Spielman:who happens to be less than a mile away from me in her own
Maureen Spielman:home and my community. And we met a few years ago, when you
Maureen Spielman:move to town, Stephanie is a happiness and mindset coach, she
Maureen Spielman:has been in the business. And well, I've got some questions
Maureen Spielman:about that. Longer than most coaches, you know, she, I'm
Maureen Spielman:thinking that Stephanie really got into the field before it was
Maureen Spielman:this really blossoming field. So you've seen it as you've gone
Maureen Spielman:along. In your own practice, you've coached individuals, and
Maureen Spielman:groups, all over the world. You've spoken on some really big
Maureen Spielman:stages, and you've written a book. And that is, you are a
Maureen Spielman:badass mom, which is just a really great title. You're the
Maureen Spielman:creator of many, many different groups, which we can talk about
Maureen Spielman:too. But I said to you, when we were setting the intention that
Maureen Spielman:you're a person that I look to, that is spreading your messages
Maureen Spielman:and your purpose and your work in the world. And you're doing
Maureen Spielman:the commitment to your own practices in your daily life,
Maureen Spielman:probably pretty much moment by moment. And so let's just jump
Maureen Spielman:in there. Welcome. And I had a question about, you know, how
Maureen Spielman:you first got into the coaching industry before it was like it
Maureen Spielman:is now but I don't know, where does it feel right for you to
Maureen Spielman:start? Stephanie? Yeah,
Steffani LeFevour:um, yeah, I guess I got into the coaching
Steffani LeFevour:industry through my own life experience, and through my
Steffani LeFevour:desire to figure life out, you know, and I'm a natural person
Steffani LeFevour:that like, love to teach what I was learning. So in my 20s, when
Steffani LeFevour:I first discovered personal growth and self expansion, and
Steffani LeFevour:like A Course in Miracles and Tao ism, and Wayne Dyer, and all
Steffani LeFevour:of that goodness that was out there, I was like consuming it,
Steffani LeFevour:and had to teach it in order to bring it to another level. You
Steffani LeFevour:know, learn and teach and learn and then teach, so I wasn't As a
Steffani LeFevour:coach back then, but I was coaching anyone that would
Steffani LeFevour:listen. And it's so funny because I saw my brother sent me
Steffani LeFevour:a card that I wrote to him when he graduated high school. So I
Steffani LeFevour:was like, a sophomore in college, and the card that I
Steffani LeFevour:wrote to him, so I must have been 20. Like, I was young, when
Steffani LeFevour:I went to college, I must have been 20 at the time, and the
Steffani LeFevour:card I wrote to him was like, you know, believe in yourself,
Steffani LeFevour:like you can be and do and have anything you want in life. And
Steffani LeFevour:this step of graduating high school, like, I'm so proud of
Steffani LeFevour:you, and you are meant for great things. And you and I was
Steffani LeFevour:reading it going, Oh, my God, I was 20. It was what I was just
Steffani LeFevour:launching into this stuff. But I know that that was there, like
Steffani LeFevour:that rock was there. And I was trying to like discover it and
Steffani LeFevour:figure it out and break it open and play with it. But like that
Steffani LeFevour:was there. I was shocked to see that. But I think the people
Steffani LeFevour:closest to me, are surprised because that seed was always
Steffani LeFevour:planted. Hmm.
Maureen Spielman:I love that. You know, I noticed on your
Maureen Spielman:website, too, that you said something like, I've always been
Maureen Spielman:a happiness coach or something a lot. What did you mean by that?
Maureen Spielman:Yeah, I
Unknown:mean, that's similar to what I was just saying, like,
Unknown:I've always been a happiness coach, that seed was always
Unknown:planted and much to my family or best friends dismay, because,
Unknown:you know, they'd be like, Oh, here she comes again. You know,
Unknown:like, I say, my, you know, everyone agrees that I've always
Unknown:been a happiness coach, except maybe my sisters, but they're my
Unknown:best clients. Because I think I was always striving to find out
Unknown:what happiness was for myself, you know, like, what does it
Unknown:look like? So I was hiking up a mountain of happiness, and
Unknown:coaching other people along the way, like, you don't come to
Unknown:happiness coaching, by having a perfectly happy life, from the
Unknown:habits coaching, because you've endured a lot, you've been
Unknown:through a lot of trauma, you've experienced a lot of hardship.
Unknown:And so you've hiked up a really grueling mountain of have that's
Unknown:really steep that's got a lot of wind and hail, and it's dark,
Unknown:and you're alone a lot. And that's how you get up the
Unknown:mountain. Because you've had to, you've got lost along the way,
Unknown:too. Yeah.
Maureen Spielman:And I think that's a big reason people are
Maureen Spielman:attracted to you, because you're always telling that the more
Maureen Spielman:vulnerable side of things, the real side of life, alongside the
Maureen Spielman:messages of you really can have it all. And so I hear you saying
Maureen Spielman:that where you came from, and the experiences you had when you
Maureen Spielman:were younger, were hard. And it was really pulling yourself from
Maureen Spielman:those places and learning new ways, new tools to implement. Do
Maureen Spielman:you just hit us with yourself? So you could I want to feel a
Maureen Spielman:different way.
Unknown:Yeah, I mean, you're so right, you can have it all. Even
Unknown:coming from a broken family, you can have it all with a father
Unknown:who's an addict, you can have it all with a negative husband, you
Unknown:can have all with, you know, kids going through challenges,
Unknown:you can have it all with no money, like you can figure it
Unknown:out, even amongst the big hard challenges in life. Yes, yeah.
Unknown:And I appreciate when any of my mentors or coaches are not only
Unknown:very real about life challenges, but show me how to get to the
Unknown:other side of them, but also apply them to right now. Like, I
Unknown:don't want any coaches that like don't have any struggles in
Unknown:life. Yeah, because life still gonna happen, you know, are
Unknown:still going to have a hard time at school, we're still going to
Unknown:have a neighbor that gets mad at us for parking our car the wrong
Unknown:way. We're still going to have Yeah, beaut among in laws or
Unknown:something, right. Yeah, that's life, like we signed up for it.
Unknown:So I'm talking about all of that, because I'm not trying to
Unknown:live like without any of that. I'm trying to embrace it all,
Unknown:like, love it all, by even the gifts in it all. And to a point
Unknown:where you're like, Bring it on. Yeah. Yeah. Saying yes. Can be
Unknown:ready for and pull out my tools and use. Because yeah, I think
Unknown:my proudest thing is like creating for myself, the toolkit
Unknown:that I need in order to hike around and keeping those tools
Unknown:sharp, and like you said, using them every day in different
Unknown:ways. Oh, there was a board meeting about schools and the
Unknown:schools are closing, what tools do I have for that, you know,
Unknown:oh, the teacher that like really doesn't get my kid and it's
Unknown:creating a lot of hard times. What's my tool for that? Oh,
Unknown:husband's really worried about money and he's spiraling out of
Unknown:control. What's my tool for that? Right? Oh, I'm feeling
Unknown:really overwhelmed running a business and managing my
Unknown:household. What's my tool for that? that like the toolkit is,
Unknown:the really powerful thing is like having that foundation of a
Unknown:tool and having it sharp and ready.
Maureen Spielman:Because, yeah, you can't find
Unknown:a tool and use it once and expect to be good at it. You
Unknown:know, you don't learn how to play the guitar one day and be
Unknown:expect to be good at it. Now, after 100 days of playing guitar
Unknown:a lot better you learn a language and speak one word and
Unknown:expect to be good at it. After 100 days of practicing the
Unknown:language, you'll be good. So using that toolkit all the time
Unknown:keeping all these things sharp, yeah, but really, really helps
Unknown:you to get challenged solution challenge solution challenge
Unknown:solution, like getting that as small as possible. I thought of
Unknown:it one time was sharing with my the ladies in my inner circle,
Unknown:like it's the game of Chutes and Ladders, you know, if you're my
Unknown:age, you get the game of Chutes and Ladders. And you're not
Unknown:trying to have you know, no ladders, no climbing up, no work
Unknown:and only shoots. You want the ladders and the shoots to be
Unknown:shorter and shorter and shorter. So that when you fall down, you
Unknown:can climb back up quick. You can climb back up quick. So yeah,
Unknown:well, ladders. Yeah,
Maureen Spielman:I love what you're saying it's so valuable,
Maureen Spielman:because what it reminds me of is how we really get no training
Maureen Spielman:when we're young. So we're, we're trained, we're conditioned
Maureen Spielman:to know that if we study the Spanish for 100 days, we will
Maureen Spielman:achieve it but no one's telling us. There's this whole area,
Maureen Spielman:which is really most of our lives, that we there are things
Maureen Spielman:out there we can do which are being uncovered more and more
Maureen Spielman:every day. But that they're there for us to practice and
Maureen Spielman:use. And I think your point to saying it like it is like
Maureen Spielman:Stephanie saying, Oh, I was triggered in traffic. And then
Maureen Spielman:what did I do? It's not like you're sitting on a mountaintop
Maureen Spielman:like what the you know, Namaste like, oh, no, you get someone
Maureen Spielman:cut you off, or you know, something didn't happen the way
Maureen Spielman:you thought it was gonna go. So there's so many lessons in this.
Maureen Spielman:But I think that that's a big takeaway is, hey, we're not
Maureen Spielman:expected to know this at all. So I am when I was preparing just
Maureen Spielman:for today and thinking about, you know, looking at your body
Maureen Spielman:of work, and going further back and thinking about those authors
Maureen Spielman:that lit you up at first. That's that's how it sort of begins,
Maureen Spielman:right? And someone's got to be the first person to light that
Maureen Spielman:fire. And even if it's saying, This is how I was triggered last
Maureen Spielman:week, and someone says, What do you say, you know, are saying
Maureen Spielman:the universe really supported me? And someone said, What do
Maureen Spielman:you say, you know, it really, that's how it begins? So
Unknown:yeah, and usually in small, incremental changes of
Unknown:that of what you say, would you say and like leaning into that,
Unknown:because it's you. It's not like I was trying to I'm writing my
Unknown:second book right now. And I was trying to pinpoint, like, the
Unknown:hero's journey, like the moment when and like, I can say, Oh, it
Unknown:was reading a return to love by Marianne Williamson in 1992, is
Unknown:what really opened me up to all this, but it wasn't like, oh,
Unknown:the door was closed, and then it was open. You know, it was like
Unknown:that book, and then that book, and then that little self
Unknown:acceptance, and then that little ceremony and then that led to
Unknown:that book, and then it led to that, you know, meeting with
Unknown:more people that were into that. Yep, one degree shift after one
Unknown:degree shift after one degree shift. And you start
Unknown:experiencing a completely different trajectory. Right?
Unknown:Yeah. But um, but yeah, it's all of those little ones you say?
Unknown:And oh, I heard that. I heard that three times. So now I'm
Unknown:going to follow that. Yeah.
Maureen Spielman:Yep. The i i know there's a themes that are
Maureen Spielman:your guiding who would you say? Have been your biggest teachers?
Unknown:Um, I would say Neale Donald Walsch. And his books
Unknown:have conversations with God. And I've worked with him many times.
Unknown:Now. I was on a board with him and he is definitely like,
Unknown:resonates with my soul. And
Maureen Spielman:yeah, I was gonna say what was so profound
Maureen Spielman:about those books? Well,
Unknown:it's funny, I had a lot of resistance to them before I
Unknown:first read them in my like, late 20s Because they had the word
Unknown:God in them, and I wasn't religious, and I was very anti
Unknown:religion. And then the first time I heard them, I listened to
Unknown:it on cassette tape. A friend loaned him to me that tape on my
Unknown:walk and then I was flying to Colorado to visit a friend and I
Unknown:press play, and everything that it said in conversations with
Unknown:God book one about spirituality, and about it's nondenominational
Unknown:and about like our souls journey. I was going Yes. Oh my
Unknown:gosh, yes. So it just so resonated with my soul. Well,
Unknown:I've never heard anything like that in church or religion or
Unknown:anywhere from anyone until I listen to that
Maureen Spielman:cassette. Well, I'm going to insert
Maureen Spielman:something before you go to your next teacher, because when I
Maureen Spielman:went through my health journey, that's what I call it five years
Maureen Spielman:ago, you gave me Conversations with God. And I was still at
Maureen Spielman:that point. My relationship with God, my religion, what I had
Maureen Spielman:grown up with, I had largely put Catholicism to the side, but me
Maureen Spielman:and that word, God, were not really jiving, you know. So I, I
Maureen Spielman:looked at it, and like you said, I didn't really get it. It
Maureen Spielman:couldn't translate for me. So recently, and this is what I
Maureen Spielman:love about all these books, because I tend to pick them up
Maureen Spielman:too. And I'll pick them up. Two weeks, two months, two years
Maureen Spielman:later, I'll be like, I read this, and it will speak to my
Maureen Spielman:heart and soul again. So recently, my son was moving into
Maureen Spielman:an apartment up in Madison, and my dad a few years back had
Maureen Spielman:given us two shorter bookcases and I said, Hey, Ben, do you
Maureen Spielman:want to take one of these bookcases? Sure, Mom. And it was
Maureen Spielman:down here in the basement. And I took the books off it and
Maureen Spielman:conversations with God, like, flies out, implies out and I
Maureen Spielman:said, Oh, and because I've healed my relationship with the
Maureen Spielman:word God. And no longer Do I see any of those really words in a
Maureen Spielman:dualistic sense anymore. It's more about oneness. So then I
Maureen Spielman:could read it now. Really, it's more it's probably five years
Maureen Spielman:later. So thank you. Oh, isn't such a good example of literally
Maureen Spielman:a book flying off now?
Unknown:Yeah. That's so funny. I don't even remember giving you
Unknown:that book. Yes. Yes. Was that book one? Or was it I think,
Maureen Spielman:I think it was a different one.
Unknown:It might be here, it was probably what God wants or
Unknown:the one about
Maureen Spielman:me, this one back here is home with God, and
Maureen Spielman:a light and a light. It's right here. Yeah. So but that was that
Maureen Spielman:seed, but that was also there for me to then this many years
Maureen Spielman:later, to serve. Because I remember my good friend Alicia
Maureen Spielman:asking me in the Akashic Records class, it was the same question.
Maureen Spielman:What's your relationship with God? Higher power source,
Maureen Spielman:whatever you call it, and I'm like, I don't have any. And so
Maureen Spielman:you know, it's like to be compassionate when any of us and
Maureen Spielman:your students and you know, people I coach, when, when a
Maureen Spielman:question is posed, and you don't yet have the answer. That's
Maureen Spielman:okay. That's yeah, it's where you are. That's perfectly where
Maureen Spielman:you are. So it's so good. Yeah, beautiful.
Unknown:I had with Eckhart Tolle his work when it was first
Unknown:introduced to me, I was like, on cassette tape back then, when I
Unknown:first I was like, he talks so slow. How anybody understand
Unknown:this, it makes no sense. What is he talking about? And later
Unknown:coming to it, it was like dropped in downloaded, loved at
Unknown:all. And it was the same book, you know, but years later, just
Unknown:really resonated. Yeah, yeah.
Maureen Spielman:I love that. So and then, who else would you
Maureen Spielman:say?
Unknown:Well, Byron, Katie is definitely one of the biggest
Unknown:teachers and mentors, because I found her work 20 years ago and
Unknown:got so it so taught me how to turn my thoughts around. It's
Unknown:like, really psychoanalysis like, you can look at your
Unknown:thoughts and you can work on it and change your thinking, change
Unknown:your perspective and change your reality just from looking at
Unknown:thought in such a powerful and profound way. So I went down the
Unknown:rabbit hole, and I got trained as a facilitator in that. So I
Unknown:was like, this can do this for me. I want to go as deep into it
Unknown:as I can, and be able to help other people with it. So her
Unknown:work is like the work for me. I love it.
Maureen Spielman:I love it. Yeah. Yeah,
Unknown:I love Marianne Williamson. And her
Unknown:interpretations of A Course in Miracles and her first book are
Unknown:returned to love. I just was the first book that ever that taught
Unknown:me about love and forgiveness and to look at life from more of
Unknown:a soul perspective. It was like a huge awakening for me because
Unknown:I was like, what people are talking about this people are
Unknown:doing this activism. And I really love Mike Dooley, because
Unknown:he was my first sort of law of attraction teacher, coach,
Unknown:Coach, like each of those people I've studied under and you know,
Unknown:met and done work with personally they're not just
Unknown:authors in my life, but authors. Authors in your life can do
Unknown:that. But I developed even a closer more personal
Unknown:relationship with their work than just their books, but yeah,
Unknown:love them. Okay.
Maureen Spielman:So then as you were going along your journey,
Maureen Spielman:and kind of like getting into a lot of the work that you do, and
Maureen Spielman:provide to people, okay, so this idea that our thoughts become
Maureen Spielman:things, can we just start there and talk about our thoughts as
Maureen Spielman:vibrations? And how, like, what is the kind of the sciency? Or
Maureen Spielman:the foundation of the thought that we create our reality with
Maureen Spielman:our thoughts?
Unknown:I mean, quantum physics can be studied and says that
Unknown:what you focus on you create more of, you know, in science,
Unknown:there's the observer effect, what the observer is thinking
Unknown:and expecting, most likely that observer creates. So, you know,
Unknown:science backs. Spirituality now more than ever before, right?
Unknown:And, yes, the fact that it's not on the cover of every newspaper
Unknown:and magazine is shocking to me, because it is so proven that are
Unknown:not just our thoughts, our thoughts, our feelings, our
Unknown:beliefs, our stories, all of those things attract and create
Unknown:more. So our thoughts create a reality, you know? Yeah, in its
Unknown:basic form, it is what we think about, we place orders for we,
Unknown:when we think we energetically align with the things that we're
Unknown:thinking. And so in my world of this, and in my interpretation
Unknown:of this, our thought puts out an order and our feelings attracted
Unknown:back in. Okay, that's so you know, yes, we are, we are
Unknown:thinking and feeling and thinking and feeling. And that
Unknown:can get confused because I was just at tennis the other day,
Unknown:and this girl on my tennis team said, Okay, Stephanie, like, I
Unknown:need your, I need your coaching help. And I was like, oh, yeah,
Unknown:what and we were just like running around doing a drill.
Unknown:And she goes, You know, I needed to find a way to manifest, you
Unknown:know, some more wins in my game, like, and I didn't know this,
Unknown:but she'd had I sort of knew, but I didn't know the whole hit.
Unknown:But she'd had a series of losses, right. And so I said,
Unknown:Okay, what you know, like, I love it. When people ask me
Unknown:advice, you know, I'm like, okay, great. What, what can I
Unknown:do? And she was like, she was like, I need your coaching
Unknown:around, you know, my tennis game. And I said, well, in its
Unknown:simplest form, what you bring to your game, you'll get out of
Unknown:your game. Right? And she goes, okay, yeah, yeah. And then she
Unknown:goes, but, you know, I have a winning mindset. And I was like,
Unknown:Oh, yes, yes. Here's the thing about our thoughts become
Unknown:things. You can't just have a winning mindset. You can't just
Unknown:think your way out of your feelings and your story, your
Unknown:story, if the story that you're bringing is I lose, no matter
Unknown:what happens, I lose. Yeah, have a winning mindset. You can't out
Unknown:mindset, your story. So that's why that's that the it's yes,
Unknown:all the things you thoughts, your words, your stories, your
Unknown:beliefs, all of that creates, and we can't just out think
Unknown:something thinking helps, you know, having a winning mindset
Unknown:helps but but what I helped her get to, in a very simple
Unknown:conversation, but what I was then I was thinking about this
Unknown:later, and I was like teaching it to my inner circle ladies
Unknown:afterwards going, Hey, this is a great thing that applied today
Unknown:to tennis and here's how you can apply it to life. Um, you know,
Unknown:what you what you need to do there is you got to change your
Unknown:story. Yeah. So instead of just I think we oversimplify
Unknown:manifesting in practice, when we go our thoughts become things
Unknown:because she's like, my thoughts are on winning. I go, and I
Unknown:think I'm gonna win. But the story that she's carrying with
Unknown:her to that game is all the times I've lost Holy shit, it
Unknown:better not happen again. I've lost a lot of lots and lots. I
Unknown:have six loss of the no matter what court I play on, even if I
Unknown:play people who I'm better than I still lose, you're carrying
Unknown:that story. You can't out think it. So what I teach is you gotta
Unknown:change that story. Okay, so what I said to her when she was like,
Unknown:Oh, I have a winning mindset. And I was like, oh, okay, you
Unknown:have a winning mindset. But your story is, I keep losing. I said,
Unknown:what you got to do is you got to focus on your wins. So it's easy
Unknown:in tennis, you know, the game and then set and then match,
Unknown:right? So how many games did you win? How many sets Did you win?
Unknown:How many points did you win yourself? How many shots did you
Unknown:take? There? were awesome. Focus on that. I couldn't get you to
Unknown:win more games. Because right now you're focusing on your
Unknown:losses, even though there's all these wins, you're voting on
Unknown:your losses. So you're bringing losses to the game. Yeah, it
Unknown:feels like it's, yeah, it feels like it's to do
Maureen Spielman:with the energy of it too. I'm, I'm
Maureen Spielman:thinking about how you had put, like the top three things people
Maureen Spielman:do to get in their way of manifesting. They say like, but
Maureen Spielman:I, you know, I'm trying to manifest or I, I'm doing it, I'm
Maureen Spielman:doing all the things. And the one that stood out to me was
Maureen Spielman:complaining. And tell me about complaining. And
Unknown:I mean, it is, if there's no one thing that's
Unknown:stopping people from getting what they want, it's
Unknown:complaining, because complaining has the energy of lack. It's a
Unknown:thought about what you don't want. It has an energy that you
Unknown:don't want, it doesn't align you with what you want, it aligns
Unknown:you with what you don't want. Yeah. So every time we can play
Unknown:an even if it's just, we're complaining, because it's, it's
Unknown:the more comfortable thing to do, oh, the weather on
Unknown:Halloween, it was so rainy, or whatever, we're in a vibration,
Unknown:and alignment with things that we don't want. So stopping
Unknown:complaining is a number one thing because we can't, you
Unknown:know, out manifest our complaints, we got us
Maureen Spielman:first. So I'm thinking of when we're in that
Maureen Spielman:complaining role, there's two parts that come to me that it is
Maureen Spielman:the victim mentality that life is happening to you and not for
Maureen Spielman:you. But also there's that component of it, when someone is
Maureen Spielman:holding the energy, let's just call it of complaining. It's
Maureen Spielman:also the energy of wanting to process something. So what do
Maureen Spielman:you tell to your clients that are how to like almost like,
Maureen Spielman:either shift that energy or be with themselves and be with it
Maureen Spielman:in a different way? Because I also think, habits we have,
Maureen Spielman:whether it's you know, for me when I've had to break is just
Maureen Spielman:spending too much time on the phone that gets in the way of my
Maureen Spielman:doing my work. It but that's a habit, right? And I told myself
Maureen Spielman:for a long time, Oh, you do it, you're doing it again, you're
Maureen Spielman:doing it again, you're doing it again. So it was very lack
Maureen Spielman:based. Making progress in it, by the way. But you know, that
Maureen Spielman:example of just needing to go in and kind of change that like,
Maureen Spielman:but I lost my train of thought a little bit there.
Unknown:Right about complaining, what what what
Unknown:people say when they say like, but I need to vent, right, yeah,
Unknown:right, right. Yeah. Okay, but I need to vent, and it's healthy
Unknown:to vent, and it's healthy to feel all my feeling well, and
Unknown:sometimes I'm like, well vent away if you want more of those
Unknown:things. But if you don't want more of those things, then don't
Unknown:vent. Yes. And of course, the if you can't not, then the key is
Unknown:keep it brief, very, very brief, as minimal as you can, and don't
Unknown:give it a lot of emotion. So I do a Complaint Free challenge at
Unknown:the beginning of all of my courses and training, because
Unknown:it's the number one thing that we want to turn around in order
Unknown:to start manifesting. And so during those Complaint Free
Unknown:challenges we focus on there's always a way to vent or to state
Unknown:something that is an observation or a fact, but not a complaint.
Unknown:You know, if I have my kid at school, and he's having a really
Unknown:hard time with a teacher, and I want to say to the teacher, I
Unknown:feel like you're being extra hard on him. There's a way to do
Unknown:that articulately without a complaint. If I'm like, How dare
Unknown:you? You are so awful at this, like, that's a complaint, right?
Unknown:I'm using exaggerated words, I'm getting into a feeling of
Unknown:emotion of it. That's what we want to avoid. Yeah, but not
Unknown:complaining doesn't mean that we just have to be a doormat and
Unknown:like the sit around and take stuff we can be moderating. You
Unknown:can say, You know what, um, I you know, to that teacher, I
Unknown:feel like you're being hard on him. That's not a complaint.
Unknown:That's an observation. It looks like to me in my experience,
Unknown:that you're being hard on him. So what can we do in order to
Unknown:improve this relationship? That's not a complaint. Like
Unknown:people always end up saying like, yes, but if someone was
Unknown:reading you, you can go no, no, you can be articulate. You can.
Unknown:You can even be angry and not complain. You can say, this
Unknown:makes me really upset if you're purposeful and articulate.
Unknown:That's different than a complaint. A complaint has
Unknown:motion a complaint has has a fixed mindset, you know, a
Unknown:complaint does have a solution focus. So yes, we can change it
Unknown:to be an observation or a statement or a fact is Have a
Unknown:complaint. And if you must complain, you keep it really
Unknown:brief. Oh, I'm so overwhelmed right now. lately. I'm so
Unknown:overwhelmed. Oh my god. Okay. Let me shake that off. And let
Unknown:me climb back up. And let me focus on what I do want. Because
Unknown:brevity is is is magic when it comes to that kind of stuff
Unknown:because we're never going to not complain, we're never going to
Unknown:not have many pity party. We're never going to not go oh my god,
Unknown:my husband is so negative. How is he even? How did I attract
Unknown:this guy? We might still go there. But our the point and
Unknown:goal is to keep it as brief as possible. Focusing on it,
Unknown:because I don't want more of it. In order to the universe than
Unknown:the order the universe goes, What's that your husband's
Unknown:negative? Okay, cue the negative husband. Make sure that
Unknown:everything she sees its own right. If he is Wait, she just
Unknown:did it again. Make it bigger. Make it bigger. Make it before
Unknown:working afterwards? Yes. Okay. She just said it again. Made
Unknown:sure that he calls her and text her negative things. That's what
Unknown:it's doing.
Maureen Spielman:So it's a mirror. It's a it's it's an
Maureen Spielman:order?
Unknown:Yes. It's an order that is immediately fulfilled.
Maureen Spielman:Oh my gosh. It makes us laugh. Right. And but
Maureen Spielman:would wear it but I'm hearing you saying and it moves someone
Maureen Spielman:from disempowered to empowered. So the brevity, the brevity is
Maureen Spielman:good.
Unknown:I like that. The friend who was you know, with the
Unknown:tennis matches, do the match, make sure she loses like, yeah,
Unknown:there's there's a story because I was talking to another friend
Unknown:about there was a story that was like, oh, and I played with her
Unknown:once. And it was like, we lost first match. And then we won the
Unknown:second match. And then like something happened, where
Unknown:literally, they got interrupted in the middle of the game that
Unknown:they were up and they ended up losing like it was like the
Unknown:universe conspired to make her lose. No, right. Like, that's
Unknown:how powerful we are. That's how strong the universe listens to
Unknown:our orders. It gets instantly delivered in a very powerful
Unknown:way. So be careful what you complain about. Be careful what
Unknown:you wish for, because it's all placing orders, right?
Maureen Spielman:Mm hmm. And it's and to give ourselves
Maureen Spielman:compassion, because it's all a retraining of, yeah, it's our
Maureen Spielman:essential nature. We were born this way, and then trained away
Maureen Spielman:from it. So it's remembering and relearning. Yeah,
Unknown:and it's good to remember that we have like a
Unknown:negativity bias. We are, we are wired for negativity. I hate
Unknown:knowing that I but it's the facts. Like when I would, you
Unknown:know, learn that and read books on that. I go, No, no, no, no, I
Unknown:want it to be different. I want us to be wired for happiness. I
Unknown:want us to be wired for positivity. But we're not
Unknown:because, you know, we have this fight or flight brain and we're
Unknown:wired to keep ourselves safe and to protect and to be suspicious
Unknown:and to you know, be aware. And so we are wired for negativity,
Unknown:we have to rewire ourselves for positivity, it takes work takes
Unknown:tool. It takes consistency, it takes new habits. So I do find
Unknown:some empowerment in that too, to go, oh, okay, I'm not broken.
Unknown:You know, we are all this way. And yet, I am empowered to
Unknown:change that. We have neuroplasticity, we can change
Unknown:that wiring. But to know that, oh, this is how the computer is
Unknown:hardwired? Okay, well, I can rewire the computer and I can
Unknown:put in all this software, all these tools to make the
Unknown:hardwiring different. That's good to know. And empowering.
Unknown:Like you said,
Maureen Spielman:Yeah. And that how we are also conditioned to
Maureen Spielman:be hard on ourselves. What do you say to the person who's
Maureen Spielman:like, got it? Got it? Because I think that's the nature of
Maureen Spielman:learning, we learn something we get excited about it, we start
Maureen Spielman:to practice it, we forget. And so is that is that just as
Maureen Spielman:simple like, just pick it, give yourself that, okay, that's
Maureen Spielman:where you are, pick yourself back up again, begin again. And
Maureen Spielman:so, like that
Unknown:you can't expect to play the guitar once every three
Unknown:weeks, and then expect to be good at the guitar. I mean, it's
Unknown:consistency is key in learning. You know, when we pick up these
Unknown:personal growth books, or we take a course or we do a five
Unknown:day challenge, it really comes down to how can I consistently,
Unknown:you know, embed this into my everyday life? Yeah, and for me,
Unknown:that takes, you know, the tools and the community and
Unknown:accountability. I mean, accountability is how I have
Unknown:achieved everything that I've ever desired. And accountability
Unknown:doesn't have to look like getting a happiness coach or
Unknown:joining a mastermind. It can look like having the right app
Unknown:on your phone. That helps you consistent Do you have gratitude
Unknown:every morning, that can be you know, the right online coach who
Unknown:gets you working out every day? You know, accountability is the
Unknown:key because we're so wired for the other thing, we can't expect
Unknown:ourselves to always have the, you know, self discipline and
Unknown:self motivation to do it all on our own. We all have those
Unknown:intentions, right? We're like, Okay, I want to, I heard about
Unknown:this new green juice, and I want to make it every morning, right?
Unknown:Well, you got to go out, you got to buy the stuff, you got to get
Unknown:the green juicing machine. But then you also have to work in
Unknown:the new daily habits of how you're going to prioritize that
Unknown:and make it an everyday thing. That takes a lot more work.
Maureen Spielman:Yeah, accountability is key. And it's
Maureen Spielman:possible. You know, I think that that's why I always see on your
Maureen Spielman:Instagram, it's like the daily dose, you say, and it's kind of
Maureen Spielman:like the things that keep you grounded on track. forward
Maureen Spielman:moving, able to support yourself, support your kids
Maureen Spielman:support women, everything. Yes, yes. Yeah, daily dose
Unknown:of the tools, daily doses of the things that light
Unknown:you up daily doses of reminding you of who you are, and your
Unknown:power, daily doses of confidence, you know, daily
Unknown:doses of challenge, because it creates change. Yeah, daily
Unknown:doses is sharpening your tools.
Maureen Spielman:I would say to when you when women begin to
Maureen Spielman:learn when they're in your groups, or I don't even know if
Maureen Spielman:you individually coach much anymore. But is it just so
Maureen Spielman:beautiful to see the blossoming and then the opening and
Maureen Spielman:transformation that occurs right before your eyes?
Unknown:Yeah, it's why I do this, because I'm in it for the
Unknown:transformation. I, you know, like, you don't get into this
Unknown:work for the money, you don't get into this work for the
Unknown:recognition, like you're in it for the transformation, like for
Unknown:the women that go, oh, wow, like, my relationship is easier.
Unknown:And I go, I would have responded years ago, like this, and now
Unknown:I'm responding like this. And I'm teaching it to my friend,
Unknown:and my family is noticing that I'm a different person. And, you
Unknown:know, I used to create so much drama, and I used to complain,
Unknown:and I and I don't even attract that anymore. And and now I'm
Unknown:winning at tennis, I mean, such a big array of the how we
Unknown:transform, when we start doing this work, yes, we start
Unknown:manifesting our lives consciously, to be shaped about
Unknown:what we want, right? We create a new roadmap, and we start going
Unknown:down that road, it is beautiful and fascinating. And I have so
Unknown:many stories of like, my clients over the years, like manifesting
Unknown:really cool things. And you know, from like, one of my
Unknown:clients who was a pilot, and she wanted to ultimately take
Unknown:helicopter lesson training, helicopter flying lessons and,
Unknown:and buyer on helicopter, and she put it on a vision board and one
Unknown:of my masterminds and like, a year and a half later, she's
Unknown:like, I just bought the helicopter that was on my
Unknown:vision, like, some really tangible fun things like that.
Unknown:And like I manifested a lake house, and to the things that
Unknown:are like, my relationship was on the verge of divorce, and we've
Unknown:never been in a better place. Or, you know, I look at my
Unknown:children in a different way than ever before. Because, you know,
Unknown:I used to be controlling and they used to trigger me and now
Unknown:I just radically accept them for who they are. And I'm just such
Unknown:a more grateful and loving mom, you know, those things aren't as
Unknown:measurable. They're not like a big tangible thing, but they're
Unknown:everything. When it comes to our life experience.
Maureen Spielman:The the quality i Well, the fact that
Maureen Spielman:you I was going to mention named your book, you are a badass mom.
Maureen Spielman:And it's funny. I remember looking at some of your
Maureen Spielman:material, like a while back, and I think I saw a video of you and
Maureen Spielman:your husband with Dr. Shefali. Is that right? Was it like it
Maureen Spielman:was some roundtable discussion? Like class with Oprah. Okay.
Maureen Spielman:Yeah. And so then many years ago, you then look towards your
Maureen Spielman:parenting, and I was, Oh, so you're raising your kids in this
Maureen Spielman:home that's infused with a lot of consciousness. And how does
Maureen Spielman:that go when you're raising two? You've got
Unknown:two teens now. Yeah, 12 and 15. Yeah,
Maureen Spielman:you see them. I mean, I know with my younger
Maureen Spielman:son. Now, it's like all these messages are laid out on the
Maureen Spielman:table, and he's listening, and everything we do is filled With
Maureen Spielman:more intention than ever, so I think it's a beautiful message
Maureen Spielman:to bring to the listeners today just about our children, and
Maureen Spielman:where they are really needing this. And I don't know, if
Maureen Spielman:you're seeing any changes within the schools these days, or
Unknown:I wish I was seeing more. You know, we're raising
Unknown:our kids with both, I would say, he both ends of the spectrum,
Unknown:because my husband is so radically different than me. And
Unknown:not that I'm better. And he's worse, we're not he has a very
Unknown:different, more realistic, more hard knocks view on life. And I
Unknown:have a much more, you know, open hearted, up level, limitless
Unknown:spiritual perspective, right. And so what I think is so
Unknown:beautiful is my kids get to see that, and they get to choose
Unknown:where they want to fall along that spectrum. You know, I mean,
Unknown:imagine only giving them this side, I think that'd be
Unknown:beautiful. But that's their only giving them this side, my
Unknown:husband think that's what they need, because this probably
Unknown:raised children. So I love the fact that they get to see both.
Unknown:And, you know, as much as I want to empower my husband, in his
Unknown:strength to be the best version of him that he can possibly be.
Unknown:I'm not necessarily trying to get him over here, you know,
Unknown:because I don't know that that would honestly benefit my kids
Unknown:in the long run. I know that they chose me and John, for
Unknown:this, both sides.
Maureen Spielman:It's a continuum, right? I love that
Maureen Spielman:and you and you modeling seeing him, then he's gonna see you
Maureen Spielman:more. So it's a beautiful blending. I like that you
Maureen Spielman:pointed it out and said that because I think a lot of people
Maureen Spielman:are living with a partner whose it seems polar opposite, but
Maureen Spielman:it's not the way we need to look at it. It's different styles
Maureen Spielman:coming in, we're coming from different families, how can we
Maureen Spielman:respect each other and plan them and at the same time, use your
Maureen Spielman:voice for what's most important for you? Right?
Unknown:Right, I hope and the that I am modeling for my kids,
Unknown:radical acceptance, and boundaries, like balance between
Unknown:radically accepting them and everyone in my life, I radically
Unknown:accept everyone exactly as they are, and the boundaries to keep
Unknown:me safe and sane, and to fulfill my greatest life, you know, so I
Unknown:hope I'm modeling for them those boundaries, and that they're
Unknown:learning that within, you know, how to have radical acceptance
Unknown:up for, you know, their teachers and their coaches that might,
Unknown:they might love. And they might hate, radical acceptance for
Unknown:their friends exactly as they are. And the boundaries that
Unknown:like, if that doesn't work for you, you leave the friendship,
Unknown:you know, that doesn't. You know, if the coaching doesn't
Unknown:work for you, but you want to stay on the team, you got to
Unknown:learn how to how to deal with your coach, you know, yeah, um,
Unknown:yeah, I mean, I hope I'm modeling all that my kids are.
Unknown:So I've never loved this parenting journey more than I do
Unknown:at teenagers. Yeah, it was my favorite. And I don't know if
Unknown:it's just because of all this work that I've done for so long,
Unknown:but I can't get enough of them right now. I love it. And
Unknown:they're so not easy. And they're not. I love it. I'm so ready for
Unknown:every challenge that is coming up. And like, it's just really
Unknown:great. I know,
Maureen Spielman:I was I was thinking of them when we were
Maureen Spielman:talking about your greatest teachers, because our kids are
Maureen Spielman:our partners our own Oh, yeah. They're all our best teachers,
Maureen Spielman:aren't they? Right?
Unknown:Yeah, all three of them, put them up to the top of
Unknown:the list of all that.
Maureen Spielman:Like, not Wayne Dyer out of the way.
Unknown:I went are gone. On those three. Oh, yeah.
Maureen Spielman:So good. I do. I do think it's because of the
Maureen Spielman:work that you've done that, that you're enjoying these
Maureen Spielman:relationships so much, because that's, I think, where I came
Maureen Spielman:from, I had a real lack of boundaries. And I wanted to do I
Maureen Spielman:knew from when I had the kids, I didn't know anything about
Maureen Spielman:conscious parenting. I had a friend who she's the director of
Maureen Spielman:smart love Family Services. I've said this before, but it was all
Maureen Spielman:like, really about just unconditionally loving your
Maureen Spielman:children. And to put it in a nutshell, and I wanted that so
Maureen Spielman:badly, but I didn't have the skills to do it. So I, I went
Maureen Spielman:through a lot of my life not knowing the skills and that's
Maureen Spielman:okay too. Because even if we find ourselves and our kids are
Maureen Spielman:in their 20s, or wherever they are, it's never it's always the
Maureen Spielman:right time. I don't want to say it's never too late. It's always
Maureen Spielman:the right time to begin learning something new, and relationships
Maureen Spielman:can shift and transform at any time. I agree. I agree with you
Unknown:guys, this story about the relationship. The
Unknown:relationship relationships, in my opinion are not beyond the
Unknown:laws of manifesting. We often think they are like, Oh, well,
Unknown:my husband is like this, or my kids are like this. And so I
Unknown:can't change them. No, you can change the story that you have
Unknown:about their relationship with them. And when we change that
Unknown:story, we change our reality, they absolutely look very
Unknown:different. And did they change? Or did we change? Like, who
Unknown:knows, or, you know, they soften or we soften. But the reality
Unknown:with that person can change when we're willing to change our
Unknown:story and see things differently.
Maureen Spielman:There's a lot in there to unpack. I was gonna
Maureen Spielman:say, you know, with relationships, whether it's
Maureen Spielman:someone's partner, or it could be a sibling that someone's kind
Maureen Spielman:of having conflict with? What's your idea about soul contracts
Maureen Spielman:and, or, you know, someone, a friend you've had for a long
Maureen Spielman:time, that's not really working well for you anymore. Like, how
Maureen Spielman:do you feel like soul contracts is this idea that, you know,
Maureen Spielman:they are writing a book
Unknown:right now called Soul assignments. So I have a lot to
Unknown:say about soul contracts. But I guess, similar. In my
Unknown:experience, Soul assignments are some pre assigned things that
Unknown:our soul decided to experience in order to advance our soul. So
Unknown:I had a soul assignment to sign up to be with my dad, my mom and
Unknown:my dad, I believe all of our parents, all of our, you know,
Unknown:parents we choose for the progression of our soul. So we
Unknown:choose our parents for soul assignments. I had a soul
Unknown:assignment to lose my sister at a young age, right? That kind of
Unknown:big, like, overwhelmingly traumatizing heart experience
Unknown:can't be anything other than a soul assignment. It happened for
Unknown:me, that happened through me. So that I might, X, Y, and Z, you
Unknown:know, exploring spirituality and like, learn about loss at a
Unknown:young age, like know how to grieve and help other people
Unknown:grieving. So we have certain soul assignments, like my
Unknown:meeting, and my meeting my, my kindergarten bestie, you know,
Unknown:and having many decades of a friendship with her was a soul
Unknown:assignment and divorcing her on my 50th birthday was a soul
Unknown:assignment. So I believe we have soul assignments. And there's a
Unknown:difference between a soul assignment call it a soul
Unknown:assignment or a soul contract whatever. And soul creation.
Unknown:Like, I created this friendship with you and I, I don't know
Unknown:that we had a soul assignment. I know, we created this because
Unknown:you're like minded. Right? I created some other amazing
Unknown:friendships to come into my life when I divorced that friend,
Unknown:because I had a desire for friends that met my standards.
Unknown:Yeah, you know, and she didn't meet my standards anymore. I
Unknown:created the house, I now live in and built it. It wasn't a soul
Unknown:assignment, you know, for me to have this house or build this
Unknown:house, right. And I created this job that I have that I do is
Unknown:coaching and teaching. You know, it wasn't a sole assignment.
Unknown:Like maybe I have a sole assignment to be an author. But
Unknown:I created the job that I now have. So I think we have the
Unknown:soul assignments, but I don't think we are victim to them at
Unknown:all. I think the key is to recognize our soul assignments,
Unknown:radically accept them, and harness the power of them, and
Unknown:find the gifts within them. So that every soul assignment good
Unknown:or bad, we see the gifts in and that gives us power to then
Unknown:consciously create soul creation. I love it. It's
Maureen Spielman:inspiring. I'm excited for the book.
Unknown:Yeah, I'm gonna finish it by the end of this year, and
Unknown:I'm going to shop it around to publishers. I have a book agent
Unknown:that's really excited about it. So that's big. Yeah. And it's
Unknown:happening through me like as much as I like sometimes I go, I
Unknown:don't know it's a lot and I can't and I try and pump the
Unknown:brakes and it just goes so yeah, yeah. Well,
Maureen Spielman:I think that one time when we were spending
Maureen Spielman:some time together you had mentioned how in the beginning
Maureen Spielman:of the day you'll you know, say like a invitation or you know
Maureen Spielman:what it what am I meant to learn today or what am I meant to know
Maureen Spielman:today or what's meant to kind of even channel through me today?
Maureen Spielman:And I love that I love that kind of just I always think about it
Maureen Spielman:like yeah commute, communing with the universe, right where
Maureen Spielman:we're at. We're conversing we're relating and it's fun.
Unknown:Yeah, sure. me how? Yeah, yeah.
Maureen Spielman:So, to this conversation, I don't know if
Maureen Spielman:there's anything that comes to mind as we kind of close things
Maureen Spielman:out that we haven't I know, there's just a million things
Maureen Spielman:that we haven't covered.
Unknown:Yeah, well, we covered a lot of good stuff. Really
Unknown:exciting. I mean, I think the bottom line is that we are
Unknown:conscious creators. And, you know, I say to my kids, every
Unknown:night, you're the light, you're meant for greatness you can be
Unknown:and do and have anything you want in this life. You know,
Unknown:because years ago, I was like, why am I not embodying this into
Unknown:my family? Am I not saying this to my children? Why am I not
Unknown:being this, I'm doing this with these women over here. And then
Unknown:I'm going to my kids get in bed, come on, get off the lights.
Unknown:Disconnect here. So that's, that's the big message, right?
Unknown:We are the light, we're meant for great things, we can
Unknown:consciously create anything we want, we can be and do and have
Unknown:anything we want in this life. Now, I think the journey is just
Unknown:to be reminded of that all the time. In that space.
Maureen Spielman:Beautiful. Thank you, you know, I know when
Maureen Spielman:this episode airs, we're going to be right at the beginning or
Maureen Spielman:in between the holiday season, it'll be right in the beginning
Maureen Spielman:of December, is there any special message you give to, to
Maureen Spielman:women as we or any individual listening that as we close out
Maureen Spielman:the year or ways we can bless or just anything that's a tradition
Maureen Spielman:to you at that time of year, I love the how we see endings and
Maureen Spielman:beginnings.
Unknown:Um, I don't know. I mean, I'm constantly focusing on
Unknown:how I can gain power through reflection through wisdom and
Unknown:through service. And I know at that time of year, we're more
Unknown:focused on service than ever before. But like doing that, all
Unknown:the time, I love the end of the year, because we can reflect and
Unknown:look at what went well, and what didn't like I've done that for
Unknown:decades. And I do that within my programs and stuff. What went
Unknown:well, what didn't What do I want to do less of what are we going
Unknown:to do more of right, and then planning consciously planning
Unknown:the next year, because people don't do that, then they spend
Unknown:more time planning one vacation, and they don't plan their year,
Unknown:or their five years or their life. So I really, really,
Unknown:really encourage you, anyone to to plan more of your days,
Unknown:planned your years plan your life, because otherwise years go
Unknown:by and we don't do this. I agree. Look at the end of the
Unknown:year as a beautiful way to reflect and to plan, you know,
Unknown:for the future so that we can make this life everyday life
Unknown:more sacred. It's available to us if we're just awake to it.
Maureen Spielman:Yeah. Thanks for spreading your message is
Maureen Spielman:love it. Where can listeners find you, Stephanie?
Unknown:They can find me on Instagram coach with Steph with
Unknown:two apps. And coach was deaf.com is my website. And I have lots
Unknown:of free courses and stuff on there.
Maureen Spielman:Well, and I may have said it early in the
Maureen Spielman:podcast today. But I love your Instagram because that you you
Maureen Spielman:really do give a lot of takeaways there like short and
Maureen Spielman:sweet. But you can just take them and go apply them to your
Maureen Spielman:life practice. I'm trying them out, pick up your kid from
Maureen Spielman:school, play with it any any of the above. And I think that's
Maureen Spielman:really helpful. And I think that's what people are really
Maureen Spielman:looking for these days. So it's a good Instagram coach.
Unknown:Thank you. Okay, well, thank
Maureen Spielman:you. And thanks to the listeners for
Maureen Spielman:being here as always, and we'll see you in the next episode.
Unknown:Thank you. You're so great at this was awesome.
Unknown:Thanks, Stephanie.
Maureen Spielman:Thanks for listening to this episode of
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