51: How To Cultivate A Sacred Soul Connection

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Do you feel like you've been showing

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compassion for everyone in your life by yourself that you often

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feel overwhelmed or exhausted, perhaps even resentful that you

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want to find new ways to put yourself at the top of your list

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after years of putting others first? If so, you're not alone

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and you're in the right place. I'm so happy to have you joining

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mystical sisterhood. Today. This episode revisits who I am as

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your host, and my wife, her bringing mystical sisterhood to

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the world. I consider you a part of my worldly sisterhood. And

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I'm grateful to be here now experiencing this life with you.

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Today I'm going to cover who I am at the helm of this podcast,

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why clients might come to me for coaching, and why cultivating a

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deep and compassionate connection to ourselves is so

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vital to our lives. You will walk away with ideas for your

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own inner connection, coaching questions to ask yourself and

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hopefully, a glimmer in your eye about what's next for you. A

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guiding principle of mine is holding you in the field of

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infinite possibilities and highest regard for your life,

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your relationships and what's next for you. So I'll see you in

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the episode. Hey there, welcome to mystical sisterhood. This is

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your host, Maureen Spielman. I started the show to highlight

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the intuitives, healers and other courageous women that I've

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met along my journey and continue to meet. Through

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amazing interviews, I seek to ask insightful questions to

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uncover ways in which you the listener can apply the wisdom

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and knowledge to your own life. I believe that we're all in this

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together. So sharing healing and joy, and bringing community

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together is both my passion and purpose. If you'd like to learn

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more about the mystical sisterhood community I'm

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building, please visit www mystical sisterhood.com See you

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in the episode.

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Hello, and welcome back to mystical sisterhood. This is

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your host, Maureen Spielman. I am here today in a series of

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three episodes, that I was calling the full circle series,

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because I'm coming full circle towards the end of the year

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here, but there's going to be three episodes in a row. And you

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can listen in succession as they come out week to week. But this

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week, I'll be coaching you on how to connect with yourself.

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Next week, I'll be sharing reflections on how to connect to

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the mystical in our midst, and then a year on wrap up

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celebrating connection with our community. And so those are kind

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of the overarching, three vital parts that I'm seeing as just

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the hub or the the center or the middle of the wheel to the

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mystical sisterhood is connection to ourself,

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connection to the mystical, and connection to community. And

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that may change and morph over time. But it's what's unfolded

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in the first, you know, 50 plus episodes. And when I first

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started the podcast, I really put out there that it was a

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space where joy and healing, were going to co occur. And that

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came from my lived experiences. But what I found, after all the

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interviews and showing up and maybe a handful of episodes on

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myself, or by myself is that the podcast has been largely about

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ways in which we compassionately connect to ourselves, and then

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compassionately connect with one another. So it's our ability to

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connect to ourselves and create a compassionate inner

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environment meant that's, it's a skill that I wasn't brought up

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to believe was valuable. I didn't know, maybe I felt it and

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other people or I resonated when someone highly valued that. But

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it wasn't, you know, part of my school experience, I think that

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schools are trying to incorporate it more these days,

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because we see it as such a need. But I'm seeing it as a

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leading edge skill. One that we are learning as adults, how to

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be compassionate with ourselves. We're stepping out of this old

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paradigm of the self criticism or self judgment or self

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loathing. All the things that really have kept us back in the

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past. And moving into this new paradigm. I was saying we're

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learning together as adults, our children are crying out for it.

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And when we we know that when we cultivate this inner environment

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of peace and love, it spills out in into our outer environment.

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So my intention for the mystical sisterhood space is that it

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allows you to access your inner world and perhaps a new and

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different way and always has something for you to take into

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your daily life and practice. For your personal growth, and to

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that end, I'll be showing up a little bit more on solo

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episodes, so we can make sure that we're cultivating that, and

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that there are takeaways. So, I thought today to fully

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understand my vision, I felt that knowing a bit more about my

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foundation, as your host, was maybe essential, maybe

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interesting. So I'm revisiting the question of who am I? And

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why the heck am I at the helm of a podcast about connection with

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ourselves in connection with community. And quite honestly,

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it's because of my lived experiences. I think my passions

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where my intuition takes me the things that I've always cared

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about, coupled with my coaching background, and I was wondering,

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as I was writing this episode is, how many of you were

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attracted when you were younger, to the whole mind, body, spirit

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movement, when you would read that, like mind body spirit, my

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eyes would light up, I got so excited. And, and a lot of that

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was around wellness or yoga. But we didn't have a lot of tools.

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It was a What about well being, but there's something so juicy

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and attractive about it. And I think it's because it speaks to

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the part of us that's a soul or a spirit. And our society, you

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know, focuses so much on the mind and our physical body. And

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those things are so important. But it's just that like, wow,

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this, like the spiritual side is really enticing as well. And I

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think there's a reason why it's resonating. And we're going to

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talk about that a lot next week in the episode of the mystical.

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So listen into that. So I'm going to delve a little bit into

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the Who am I, and we're going to just go through some things just

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because if you are a committed listener, then maybe some of

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these will make sense to you. And there are themes that I go

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over, but there'll be some themes in here and see if they

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resonate with you and see where you fall out on them. But first

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of all, I lead with the fact that I am a child of loving

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parents who raised six children and did the best they could, you

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know, and at the same time, as so many of us who go into parent

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parenting, they were not well equipped to, you know, to

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provide what I needed. As a child, I'll speak from my own

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experience and the connection and the intimacy and just

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knowing that I was seeing and being witnessed, and I was

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important, and you know, all the things. And so I will say thank

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you to them, they both passed. But that's that's a big part of

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my story. Because I think that I always cared so deeply. And it's

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why I studied conscious parenting to is that I cared

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deeply about children's experiences, because I was so

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sensitive as a child, and empathic and I think I picked up

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on these things really early on. Interestingly, my Oh studied

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profession was speech language pathology. And I think that

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everything and Susan Lucci talked about this, in the

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episode on celebrating your purpose, is that I think it was

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not to become a speech language pathologist. It was because

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studying communication connection and finding one's

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voice became so important to my life's work. I'm a mom of three

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beautiful young adults who are my greatest teachers. I'm a

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partner of over 30 years to my husband, who is also my greatest

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teacher. I am a sister to five amazing souls, four sisters and

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a brother. And I'm unwell. I'm a woman on a path of finding her

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voice while healing past wounds. A woman like you, who has had

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her fair share of losses, perhaps different, perhaps

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similar. But that brings tears to my eyes, because I know that

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our shared experience is having had challenges in our lives that

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are here for us to tend to, to just surround ourselves with the

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most deep loving hugs and understandings and immerse

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ourselves, I think in teachings that help us understand the

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place of those things in our lives and find ways to nurture

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and nourish ourselves. I went through surgery, chemotherapy,

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and radiation in 2018 and 19, for breast cancer, and I walked

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away a completely different person. And, you know, that is

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part of why I'm sitting at the helm here today because I don't

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know if I ever would have done this had I not gone through

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those things. Not that you need to in order to create something

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that's really meaningful for your life at all, but that's

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part of my story. I'm a coach trained in several modalities,

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conscious parenting, and I think soul care coaching being the

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most relevant, I consider myself a visionary. And one of my main

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purpose is to, is to spread light within the world. I

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absolutely love the coaching aspect of what I do. And I love

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the mystical, and I love being in community and in our shared

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sisterhood. And I've been working with healers and

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intuitives for years. And I love learning more about myself

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through the mystical realm. We're all so connected to a

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mystical, the mystical side of things, the mystery, the all the

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magic and ancient ways of practicing ritual, and newer

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ways of tapping into our strength and wisdom. Hey, I'm

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all in I want more of that, because I think it makes life

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juicy. I think it makes it fun. It puts meaning and relevance to

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what I do on a daily basis. So there's so much more, but I

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wanted to give you that background just to give you that

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taste of why I'm here. As for you, I invite you to create your

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I Am statements. I didn't even I didn't even create things, you

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know other soulful things about who I am. But those are just a

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little bit where I came from and why I'm here. So I cultivate

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your own im statements and maybe we can make some beautiful art

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from them to all of the questions or you know, offerings

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I make today will be in the show notes for you to reflect on in

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journal whenever it's convenient to you or ponder when you're

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taking a walk with the dog.

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Share with me on Instagram, that's where you'll find me

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hanging out a social media wise. At Maureen Spielman, or on

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Facebook, I have a free, mystical sisterhood Facebook

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group that's in the show notes to see the link to join. So I

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think one of the reasons why I became a coach or call it what

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you will sell Care Coach, I think it lies in the fact that

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is a guiding principle of mine is that I wholeheartedly believe

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in the possibility of change. And when I hear you know, out in

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the ethers, someone say something about, they'll have it

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for their whole life. And I'm not talking about physical

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maladies, but I'm talking about ways that they identify maybe

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with their personality, they'll never change I, I have something

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in my being that's like, I don't believe it, I believe in the

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possibility of change. I've experienced it in my own life.

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I've seen it with my relationships with my children.

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I've seen it in my clients. And I want to note that Susie Lulu,

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my teacher, mentor friend always says your own transformation is

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your greatest credential. And I'm here as a lived experience

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to the colossal change that's possible within oneself. I won't

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go into the backstory of everything that I used to carry,

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from shame to guilt, to, you know, just immense criticism of

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my body. Just to so many things where I've been so interested in

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how can I feel that because it just felt so heavy, and

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something that I couldn't move through that I was on this

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eternal pursuit to figure out how that could be done. And I

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don't think I would have pursued life coaching if I didn't hold

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that possibility for my clients. And that being said, if you

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haven't had a chance to listen to Suze, Lulu, and my podcast,

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it was episode four, you are worthy. And it's a great one to

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link back to. Yeah, I think that I mean, I want to say I think I

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connect with people easily. But I didn't realize that coaching

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was a possibility. For me, I really had some condition,

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things that thought like you have to go back to school in

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order to work with people. But it turns out that this avenue,

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for me was a perfect fit. And I hope that's a model for other

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people in ways to think that there are many ways in which to

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discover the things you want to do. The sky's the limit. And

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more than ever, people are at this sort of like a game I'm

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going to say are just taking the opportunity to create what you

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know, they never thought was possible as long as it's like a

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shift in perspective, when you start to think like, oh, you

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know, could someone someone suggest to you Oh, did you ever

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think and you take what they say and you say like, wait a minute,

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I know I never thought that and maybe for me, you know the

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question about like, oh, did you ever think about being a coach

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from you know, my dear friend Alicia house was one that hit me

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out of left field and I never thought I could be one. But I

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think it's it's so interesting when someone plants the seed for

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us and I hope that that's what this podcast is for you is like

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a planting seed for what you can become and what's next for you

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because hey, I want to hear it. I think that there's so much

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possibility I think I allowed myself to look into new avenues

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and I could I learn to excel at something in midlife and I think

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that's really important. So I'm You know, I've, I've, I've

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mentioned my studying, I won't go into that, but I'm just a

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lifelong learner. So I wanted to kind of offer like, what my

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coaching looks like, I feel like I have a unique lens through

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which I see my client. And I guess any coach out there really

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does. But I really believe that you hold all the wisdom in

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yourself. And I'm a Master Guide, and hopefully facilitator

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for you, to lead you back to your truth, your light and your

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essence. And I was laughing because I was kind of thinking

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like, Oh, my God, this should be a class in college, if not high

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school. I really, the I've said this during the podcast, I

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believe that my clients, individuals I meet are so

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uniquely encoded with their own gifts, and what is going to be

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true for them. And so that's why like, studying different

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modalities, like I have is really helpful, because what is

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right for one client might not be right for the next and, you

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know, some clients want to go into the their emotional world

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and go back and some want to work on, you know, spiritual,

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like bringing more universal principles into your life, like,

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how is life for me? Why is this here? What am I, I'm here to

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experience, this is one of my soul's lessons. So there's

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different ways, you know, or reasons people come. But I was

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conditioned to think that I really was when I was young,

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that there was one way to go about doing things. And I'm just

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so open to infinite possibilities for what will most

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assist a particular person, I'm not tied to what it has to be so

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trying different things, and going different directions while

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listening to what's deep within the client, the client leads me.

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And so I think, in addition, and next week is the episode on the

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mystical, but like, if it's certain mystical input, or

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avenues, or that will help you find your way. I'm all for that.

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I would say that what I like about, I would say, four or five

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months ago, I reached out to my community on Facebook, and I

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said, would anyone be willing to talk to me about their

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experiences? And what I found in midlife is that the two of the

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things that stood out the most was clients looking for clarity,

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and truth. And I thought that that was really interesting,

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because to me, part of the work I do is helping clients shift

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through what is your conditioning, you know who you

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were born to be this light, this, this unencumbered being

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who took on these ways of beings that at some point in our life,

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I think we get older, and we're just like, wait a minute, this

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isn't me. And so it was so fascinating to hear these women

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say that then really the number one thing they were looking for

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was clarity. And I really think beneath the clarity, is looking

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for their truth. So it seems like we're trying to find the

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clarity within a situation. And yes, that may be true, should I

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stay with my husband should I allow my child to drive down to

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college for three hours on the interstate when they haven't

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done it before. And I think it's really tapping into what's right

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for you. And it's teasing that out. And, and I love the client,

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the coach client relationship, because it's one of I feel being

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seen and being heard. I know I work with, I've worked with

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coaches, I work with a coach right now. And it's just like,

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just so highly beneficial, to feel witnessed. And to just lay

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it all out there and have nothing be bad or wrong, or I'm

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not to be fixed. It's just that it's a safe place. And it's a

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safe place to be vulnerable. It's a safe place to say

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whatever needs to be said, and being really guided by your own

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intuition and wisdom within sessions. And I think as women

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we hold a lot, and we're classic overseers taking on what it is

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not ours. I see that I see that. And we know that but I see that

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in my clients. And it's like, well, what can you put down?

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What can what can you put down physically that you're doing

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that is stressing you out and taxing you? And but also, what

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can you put down from your past and your conditioning and your

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upbringing that no longer serves you either. Women often say

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they're looking for ways not to be hard on themselves or not

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feel fear, fearful of their future, that's a big one, or

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that they feel unexpressed in their relationships. So there's

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all these different reasons people come. And I think as a

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coach, I'm interested in really expansive questions that allow

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individuals to really be open to new possibilities and dream. I

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love that to be able to see their own truth in light. It's

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the place we start. become curious about new perspectives,

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ones that which you may not have considered before, new

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perspectives, having new eyes on the situation and being willing

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to see something in a new way. A that's huge. And it I think they

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didn't even enter into the coaching relationship. It's

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willingness and courage, courage that bring you here. And it's

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really important to note, big one to me has always been

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understanding how your past informs your presence. So I'll

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say a little bit about that in a few minutes. But really,

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largely, this whole compassionate container,

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inviting you into new practices of self compassion and letting

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go voices of not enoughness judgment, comparison and

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scarcity. And thereby, putting a lens on that, let's replace that

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with some new supportive inner dialogue. How can we gradually

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replace the voices that say we're not enough, one at a time,

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one at a time? Looking to see what limiting beliefs I can't do

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that because I'm too old. My kid is not smart enough to do that

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he can never get into this college because

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I could never start a new career. Because I'm not out

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there enough. I'm just trying to think of, you know, even

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limiting beliefs, I never thought my marriage will would

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work, therefore it can't Well, is that the truth for you? Yeah,

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just generating the different questions that come up in our

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lives. There's the issue of setting boundaries.

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Understanding where our family and culture plays into what we

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think this is way bigger than any of us realize. And when we

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can start to be like, hey, that conditioning is not mine. super

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powerful. And when we can find people to talk to about this

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super powerful, and also connecting deeply within, in

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order to cultivate safety within in your outer relationships. So

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that safety one that that could be a whole episode. But when we

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replace those voices of comparison, you know,

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competition and not enoughness, and not thin enough, and not

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smart enough, and all the things, then it ushers in the

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compassion, which ushers in safety. And when we feel safe,

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we're going to transform we just are. So yeah. So I've kind of

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pointed out the ways this looks for client clients. But I think

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it's really the process of learning a new language of self

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compassion, understanding, and just a process. And I point this

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out of becoming so invested in your own transformation, that

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any idea of you taking a back seat in the past is like, No,

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I'm worthy and deserving of taking this front seat, and

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really fostering this new relationship inside of myself

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that I may not have ever understood before. And that is

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here for me to cultivate and grow and it will grow. That is

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for sure. I would say that often, when I ask a client about

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their childhood, this is an example that they'll say, Oh, I

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had such a good childhood. But on deeper reflection, they might

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realize that even though and I've, I've realized this about

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my own childhood, too, even though things looked as if they

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were the white picket fence, that actually there were, you

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know, cracks in the surface or ways in which our needs weren't

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met. And it's okay, it's okay, that we had childhood, kids like

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that, because that's, it feels like the human experience to me,

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I've been more conscious with my kids, and there's still many

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cracks in the surface. So it's how to be with those things and

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not be hard on ourselves. And know that it's okay know, that,

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you know, identifying the places in our life, like in our

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foundational years, where we didn't have the connection, and

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we didn't have the intimate relationships, that that truly

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affects our adult relationships. And, you know, it would be, I

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think, one of the ways is to go, besides cultivating compassion

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is, you know, really appreciating ourselves fully.

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And I talked about that just a few episodes ago, how to

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appreciate yourself fully. And, you know, they're just new ways

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of seeing ourselves and giving grace and to our experiences

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and, and I think, you know, knowing that it wasn't bad or

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wrong, and that it's here to be, you know, brought just a new

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compassionate lens to what I see is that you're finding your own

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way, setting your own rules, putting down what doesn't serve,

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and moving into a space where you really do you take 100%

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responsibility, and ownership for your experience and how

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beautiful that can be. So I'm going to wrap it up today by

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leaving you with some questions from my coaching that I may use

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with clients to consider for yourself, I'm going to put these

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in the show notes. So check out the show notes. I feel that

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they're thought provoking, and lead you to consider yourself

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and consider new possibilities for yourself. So the first one

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is, if you had a magic wand, what would you create in your

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life? What qualities do you seek to experience in your life?

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These may be things like abundance, play, fun, total

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health. And have these changed for you in the last few years

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reflecting on the last few years? Have they change? Did

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your old questions are they being replaced with new ones,

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new qualities you want to live by? Perhaps that was being there

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for your children. And now you don't need to be anymore,

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they're grown. Or you realized, through, you know, the pandemic

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that you wanted to experience more travel or play in your

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life. Or maybe it's that some connections have, you know,

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grown apart and you want to be more connected, you want to be

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in community? You want to define how your friendships are going

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to look. If you could change one or two things right now, what

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would they be? I'd be very curious to know about that. And

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what limiting beliefs get in the way of you experiencing the life

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you desire? And I guess one last one would be what's on your

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heart? And what's next for you? Hmm. Truthfully, we're all

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looking for ways to understand ourselves and a form form a deep

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connection with ourselves and our loved ones. But I think

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we're really really, really looking for that deep and

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fulfilled understanding of ourselves. So today, that's a

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bit about me, my why, what my coaching entails. I believe that

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my past my experiences have really positioned me well to

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work with individuals and groups, but to bring together

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this mystical sisterhood, you, my sisters, my worldly sisters

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together for this connection and community and I believe it's a

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cornerstone of my life's work, and I thank you for being here.

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If you would like to look into coaching yourself, if you're

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curious about it, and want to have the conversation, either

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email me at hello at Maureen Spielman, or you can go to my

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website to my contact form, schedule a session for yourself,

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I offer a complimentary 30 minute session, or find me on

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Instagram at Maureen Spielman. I want to just say that it's been

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a pleasure to talk about all these things to touch upon all

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of them today. Next week, we'll be delving into what is the

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mystical, we're gonna gain input from the mystics, some of them

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not all of them who have been on the podcast, and allow ourselves

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to uncover our own magic, not just leaving it to the experts.

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Because if you are here, I believe you hold that light. You

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are in awe of the mystery of life. You are You are the

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mystical, you are the magic and you are a really valuable part

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of this community. So thanks for being here. And I will see you

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next episode.

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